Originally Published May 28, 2025
Judgmental voices have a way of reducing people to a single label, often ignoring the complexity of who they truly are. I’ve experienced this firsthand as a sex worker. Despite my accomplishments, my profession overshadows everything else in the eyes of many. But when I look in the mirror, I see a woman I’m proud of—and that’s what matters most.
I’m a college-educated woman who has worked hard to build a stable, fulfilling life. I own my own home—a beautiful space I’ve created for my family, a testament to my financial independence and determination. I’m a devoted mother, deeply proud of the relationship I share with my children and of the incredible individuals they’re becoming. I volunteer in my community, pay my taxes diligently, and strive to be a good neighbor, always ready to lend a helping hand. I don’t use illicit substances, and I live a life grounded in responsibility and integrity.
Yet, despite all this, judgmental voices fixate on one thing: my chosen profession as a sex worker. It’s the lens through which everything else about me is judged, as if it erases all my other achievements. I could list my credentials and contributions until I’m blue in the face, but for many, the fact that I’m a sex worker taints it all. It’s as if my profession—a choice I made thoughtfully, as I’ve shared in previous blog posts—defines my entire worth.
The stigma is relentless. It whispers that I’m less than, that my accomplishments don’t matter, that I’m not deserving of respect. It’s hard not to let those judgmental voices creep in, to start believing the narrative they push. But then I pause, take a deep breath, and look in the mirror. The woman staring back at me is someone I’m proud of. She’s strong, capable, and unapologetically herself. She’s built a life she loves, one that allows her to be present for her children while supporting her community. She’s not defined by the narrow judgments of others—she’s defined by her own values and the love she gives and receives.
So, to those judgmental voices who can’t see past my profession: fuck them! I refuse to let their limited perspective dim my light. I am a sex worker, yes—but I am also so much more. I’m a mother, a homeowner, a volunteer, a taxpayer, a neighbor, and a woman who has earned every bit of her success. Respect from others may be hard to come by, but the respect I have for myself is unshakable. And that’s more than enough.
❤️Charlotte